If I keep from commanding people, they behave themselves. If I keep from preaching at people, they improve themselves. If I keep from imposing on people, they become themselves. LaoTzu How do we define a respectful relationship? What is considered respectful behaviour by one person is quite different for another. [...]
As a young girl, I learned to relish the wisdom, guidance, and company of older women whose lives were shaped by the safety of secure family attachments and loving people. Sadly, for many young women this sense of personal safety and familiarity was unavailable during their childhood. As we age, [...]
In a time where a ‘fatherless boy culture’ becomes more prevalent, the presence of fine men who can guide, support and lead is paramount. The dearth of male teachers in schools and preschools, as well as a deficiency of educated and professional men employed in mental health and rehabilitation, can [...]
As youngsters, we grow up learning and adapting to everyday routines. Important family rituals, habits and themes are passed down through generations. We gain a sense of comfort and safety in repetition; significant patterns begin to shape our understanding of life and form our unique identity. Over time we study [...]
When fear and doubt turn up in your life it can be helpful to think in a different way, gather your courage and ask fear these questions: Who invited you? Why are you here? Do you have something to say to me? Is there something I need to know? Do [...]
Speaking of anger, what exactly qualifies this simple emotion to intensify power and press so many of our reactive buttons? Today’s society continually advocates that outbursts of anger are unhealthy. We accommodate this idea by adopting a range of techniques in order to suppress our emotion and hide extreme feelings [...]
Studies show that when people feel secure they reach out and connect to others and feel more peaceful within themselves. When we feel emotionally connected, it is easier to manage the ups and downs in our relationships and our lives. However, when a loving connection fades or becomes lost, people [...]
Recently people have shared ways in which clearing their physical clutter helped them to create space for increased motivation and inspired creativity. In this blog we shall explore how sorting through and letting go of mental and emotional clutter assists us to become more centred and focused on things that [...]
In recent blogs, I have touched on the concept of clutter and clearing the clutter. The idea carries such significance that I would like to include this theme of ‘clutter clearing’ in the next couple of articles. Let’s explore how physical clutter eventually impacts on our daily life. Unattended clutter [...]
Xmas 2014 is over and a New Year arrives filled with hope of better things to come. It is a time to clear out the old and invite in the new. A time to review what progress was made with last year’s plans and set new goals. When reflecting on [...]
Xmas is almost here and we are surrounded by images of consumerism. Marketing companies spend millions on creative images for the retail sales market, in order to convey the message that Xmas time is shared by happy, functional families. Sales are generated through the inference that Xmas is a time [...]
For most people, letting go is deep-rooted in sadness. It is intensely painful and feels completely incurable. Whether it be a significant person passing away, a shattered relationship or even letting go of our adult children, it is difficult to let go. The concept of healing after a loss is [...]
For most people, sharing a relationship is an excellent opportunity to gain interesting, discerning information about a significant person in their life. This learning can lead us to discover more about ourselves. It helps us to notice and deepen things we consider important, while examining, discovering and appreciating our unique [...]
Healing a heartache - How is it possible to recover from a pain so bad, we think it will never end? Why isn’t it easy to wake up one morning and say “That is it, I am over this pain, I am free now and I am moving on?” No [...]
Emotional triggers cause people to experience intense emotional feelings. Triggers often leave people feeling extremely vulnerable and stressed, unsure of themselves and potentially fragile. When people find themselves in this ‘state’ they may react in unfamiliar ways and agree to involve themselves in activities they would normally resist. While triggers [...]
The healing power of animals and pets Do you resonate with a certain animal and experience a greater sense of connection when that animal appears? Do you ever feel sad, lost, lonely or simply miserable and then your pet arrives? All animals appear to have the innate ability to sit [...]
