During this week’s careful analysis of my Gold Coast Counselling practice, I found it interesting to consider how often “relevant themes” emerge with clients. Currently, the theme appears to be based upon feelings of worthiness. The Oxford dictionary describes worthiness as “the quality of being good enough; suitability.” Free dictionary states, “the quality of deserving attention or respect.” Brene Brown, a woman whose work I greatly admire and respect, offers the explanation, “There are no prerequisites for worthiness.” So how do we evaluate and measure our worthiness?

Spending Saturday evening at home, I was fortunate enough to view a superb concert starring the singer, songwriter, Jewel. The concert stimulated me to consider the whole concept of “worthiness’. Jewel referred to her orchestra with great pride, sweetly playing strings and guitar in support of her vocal performance. I was astounded when she stopped suddenly and shared how she was simply “a country bumpkin girl with no musical qualifications.” Jewel, having no formal or professional musical training, truly esteemed the classical education these musicians possessed. I do not for one moment wish to downplay the importance of formal training, and in line with Jewel’s suggestion, I believe and appreciate that her musicians were of a particularly high standard. However here was a lady, who has sold her music to millions of listeners across the world, deferring to the musical attributes of the orchestra, simply because they held professional qualifications and classical backgrounds. Jewel prompted her audience to appreciate that she was less deserving of the same respect. I found that idea fascinating and could not stop contemplating how, at times, we all buy into the unsubstantiated notion that, “we are not really good enough and require much improvement”

So where does this idea of not being good enough come from? Perhaps many of us comprehend how our family of origin and the foundational bonds of attachment, undoubtedly help to determine the blueprint we choose to live by. It is interesting to listen and catch ourselves as we speak. Do you have a sense that at times you open your mouth and your parent’s voice comes out? At times we are aware of our mothers or father’s values and thoughts, replicated in messages we pass onto other people. On the other hand, there are individuals who come into the world and appear to bring worthiness and joy with them, while others bring less confidence, anxiety and apprehension.

Worthiness can be challenged, confronted and tested. If we are willing to open up to new approaches, we can stop blocking our pathway to greater joy and happiness. In a few short sessions it is possible to find and begin to love your peaceful heart.  Be Brave and give it a try.    Yours in therapy, Jill.

This month Jill has kindly asked me to write my Astrological interpretation on ‘worthiness’.

From an astrological point of view, worthiness is related to the Virgo archetype which has to do with striving for perfection and purity. The sign of Virgo is alive in everybody whether you have planets sitting within that sign or not. Virgo is about transforming self-doubt; I’m not feeling good enough, I need to get better. Virgo can be a sense of lack if adversely aspected by other planets or points in the chart.

In a chart consultation signs and houses are established through the birth time. Where Virgo is situated in your chart is where you are growing and you want to get better by observing, adjusting and improving. You want to become more proficient and therefore feel more worthy.  Individual uniqueness and differences become more apparent throughout each personal consultation.

One Astrologer recalls a Virgo once saying in her class that, sometimes it is healthy for me be to be okay with a “half- assed” job and walk away from it feeling peaceful about it. This received a lot of laughter or recognition from others who understood/related to that Virgo part of themselves. Via distortions (aspects in the chart), Virgo can think that anything is never good enough and they are never ready. In reality it never is and so if you can be ok with it instead of focusing on what is wrong, it is easier to release. Maybe you don’t have to be perfect to appreciate worthiness.

Through a chart consultation, life’s greatest potentiality for growth lies understood against the backdrop of your soul’s intentions. I work with Evolutionary Astrology which offers tremendous insight into where the soul has been, its current life purpose, and ultimately where the soul is going. Discovering your soul’s journey can be a really validating experience and assists in the process of healing self-doubt and transcending failure.  (Simon Vorster.com)

I welcome you to meet with me on the Gold Coast to discover your evolutionary path, Dallas.

References.

Brown, B., (2012) Daring Greatly.Penguin Random House. N’Y. USA