Progress transforms any journey into a series of small steps, taken one by one, to reach any goal. Progress transcends time, teaches patience, rests on a solid foundation of careful preparation, and embodies trust in our unfolding potential.   Dan Millman. (1995)

 

Sitting silently, I observe a handsome pink gecko glide effortlessly across the kitchen window pane.  The whole expedition seems so natural to this lizard and I am left wondering what it might be like to experience the world from an ‘upside down position’, a new perspective.

For so many of us, it has been a tough year. People from all works of life have shared stories of their struggle. Many spoke of how without the support of self-efficacy, it would have been exceedingly difficult to maintain a sense of familiarity within the scope of their life. Perhaps relating to the attitude of the gecko may have helped.

At times it can be useful to view our life from a totally different viewpoint. It takes skill and patience in order to preserve the status quo while simultaneously learning to balance life’s inevitable ups and downs. While action certainly has its place, it is really how we show up in the world that truly makes a difference.

As this year draws to an end, universally people like to take time out to reflect on their progress. We may have identified parts of our life where, for a short time, we invited fear, shame, anger, pain or sadness to cohabit with us. We may look back and comprehend how emotional triggers have fortified unhealthy cycles and patterns.  Self-sabotage has a sneaky way of feeding our ego and authorizing addictive behaviours, both positive and negative, to turn up and leave us feeling insecure.

In spite of this, we made it through, and may now be willing to graciously acknowledge the contributions of harsh lessons along the way. It is time to be still, relax and feel calm. To reward ourselves with a sense of pride and enjoy the satisfaction of accomplishment. This is a time of quiet reflection, an opportunity to take stock of how far we have come. It is important to review the picture that characterizes both before and after.  From where we were, to where we are now.

This year may have presented many challenges, but looking back it has provided us all with the ability to grow and learn. Perhaps it is possible that we are not as fearful, anxious, judgemental, or angry. Perhaps we have gained more awareness and insight into our own behaviours and how our actions may impact on those around us. This consideration gives us the capability to fully live our lives and awaken to countless new and intuitive experiences. Doors open when we evoke hidden parts of our personality.

The more restored we feel, the more we can accept life’s connection. Possibly the time has come to step through the door into 2017 feeling safe, more confident and further self-assured. By remaining open to new perspectives, we can begin to trust the heart intuition that is always available to us. If we are willing to embrace a totally new approach and take some risks, diverse opportunities will emerge.

Similar to my friend the gecko, (to whom I owe much gratitude for this blog), we need to be wide awake and aware. Sensitivity is about being open, focused and receptive.  This strategic undertaking will expand our potential and strengthen our prospects.

In the midst of our noisy, distracted lives, it is easy to lose sight of what matters.  Take time out over the holidays to thank the people who have been close to you throughout 2016.  Allow them to recognize the significance of their presence and appreciate how their company has enriched your life. Speak from a truthful place so your words are understood as heartfelt, sincere and consequently believed.

Roll on 2017, may we welcome a brand new way of viewing our lives by means of embracing fresh perspectives with gratitude. Combined with joyous transformation, next year signals a promise of new beginnings and acquired wisdom.  In saying that, it is with great pleasure and deep gratitude that I acknowledge the people who make a difference in my life, and likewise to those who come in contact with my work.

Yours in Therapy,

Jill Bayly.

References.

Millman, D., (1997) The Laws of Spirit.  A Tale of Transformation. H. J Kramer: California.

Richardson, C., (2009) The Art of Extreme Self Care.  Hay House: Canada.